In a relationship, chatting is a very important part. But sometimes we encounter embarrassing situations, such as having nothing to talk about after a confession is rejected. At this time, high emotional intelligence chat skills are particularly important.
1. Focus on the other person’s interests
If you already know the other person’s interests and hobbies, you can guide the chat topic by asking questions, sharing relevant content, etc. For example, if the other person likes traveling, you can ask him/her where he/she has been recently, or share interesting places you have been to.
If you don’t know the other person’s interests and hobbies, you can obtain information through some indirect methods. For example, ask the other person what movies they have watched recently, what music they have listened to, etc.
2. Talk about common topics
If you and the other person have common topics, you can get closer to each other by talking about these topics. For example, if you are both professionals in a certain field, you can discuss hot issues in that field; if you both like a certain sport, you can talk about recent game results.
If you don’t have a common topic, you can guide the chat through some open-ended questions. For example, ask the other person about their recent interesting experiences, favorite travel destinations, etc.
3. Express concern and understanding
During the chat process, it is very important to express concern and understanding. If the other person encounters difficulties or is unhappy, you can express your care and support appropriately. For example, ask the other person if he/she needs help, or encourage him/her to be strong in the face of difficulties.
At the same time, you should also listen to the other party's opinions and ideas during the chat, and respect his/her views. If you have a disagreement, try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand the other person's position.
4. Create a relaxed and happy atmosphere
In the process of chatting, it is very important to create a relaxed and happy atmosphere. important. You can use some humor and fun to relieve the tension. For example, share some funny jokes, videos, etc.
At the same time, be careful to avoid some sensitive topics, such as politics, religion, etc. These topics can easily cause controversy and are not conducive to creating a chat atmosphere.
5. Be polite when ending a chat
Be polite when ending a chat. You can express your gratitude and blessings, such as "Thank you for chatting with me today, I hope everything goes well for you" etc.
At the same time, avoid being overly dependent on the other person and not making him/her feel harassed or over-stressed.
During the chat, pay attention to the other party’s feelings and needs, and try to avoid some sensitive topics and conflicts. Through the above methods, the quality and effect of chat can be effectively improved.
