Have you ever heard of the term masked couple? Maybe many friends don’t know much about this term, so today I will take you to see what masked couple means. If you don’t know yet, don’t miss it.
What is a masked couple:
It refers to two people who do not feel happy in their marriage. In front of them, they can barely maintain the dignity of their marriage, but in reality, they seem to be inseparable, and even share the same bed with different dreams. After experiencing this state, you may feel that your life alone will be happier than it is now.
What should we do when we become a masked couple and feel the pain of marriage?
Let us first think about a question: Why is it so painful to become a masked couple, but we still don’t want to What about leaving?
People will stay in fake relationships because of two factors:
1. External factors: children, finances, etc. that prevent them from leaving (objective)</ p>
This is the reason why most fake marriages continue to maintain. After having children, whether it is from economic factors or long-term child growth and education considerations, it is believed that raising children together is a better choice.
2. Unable to escape from the comfort zone (subjective)
Relying on the current living conditions, fearing changes, and being weak and making do. Some people feel anxious when facing divorce: How will I live alone after divorce? I must become the talk of the people around me after dinner. There is both the fear of being separated from the present and confusion about the unknown life, so some people would rather make do with their partner, seemingly in harmony with each other, than dare to change to a new lifestyle.
What can we do if we are in a fake marriage?
1. Stop the loss in time
This is a worst-case scenario. If the marriage is really in trouble and cannot be maintained, then you can choose to end it in time, because this kind of suffering is a waste of your time and feelings, and will only lead to a painful marriage. Giving you more self-doubt.
2. Work hard to save
When problems arise in marriage, it is like our body is sick. Only by finding out the final symptom and then prescribing the right medicine can we gradually see signs of cure. Recovery is possible.
Roland Miller once used a study to reveal the true meaning of a happy marriage. Researchers have found that the reasons for successful marriages are due to the following points: 1. Cherish marriage. Marriage is a long-term commitment and loyalty;
2. Have a sense of humor;
3. Have similarities. Can reach an agreement on most things;
4. Really like your partner and enjoy the good time together;
In summary: communication + growth + cherish+Be considerate
If you can’t change the other person, then please start by changing yourself. Try to reveal your true self, communicate more with your partner about your true inner thoughts, be able to share joy and pain, reciprocate and empathize with each other's feelings, and establish a true emotional connection.
If you want the other person to give you what you want, you must first give the other person what he or she needs. That is to say, if you want to take something, you must first give it.
