In fact, no matter whether you have a subjective intention or not, as long as you enter a marriage relationship, there will inevitably be operations. This operation is either positive or negative.
Managing relationships refers to a series of behavioral decisions made when maintaining a long-term intimate relationship.
When a person interacts with his partner in daily married life, some decisions are made after careful consideration, while others are made instinctively.
"Instinctive decision-making" is also a type of management. However, the "instinct decision-making" of most of us usually shows negative management.
When both husband and wife speak and do things based on instinctive decisions, most of them are negative and it is difficult to have a harmonious and happy married life.
Only when people are affirmed and rewarded can their enthusiasm be mobilized. However, it is impossible for you to be aware of the source of your emotions every time and adopt positive business strategies in a timely manner.
So correspondingly, not only does your marriage need to be managed by you alone, but your partner also needs to learn how to manage the relationship as a couple.
Let’s share a business strategy for daily maintenance of positive emotions. This strategy is very simple: give your partner frequent affirmation.
Affirmation of your partner includes three aspects:
1. Affirm your partner’s external qualities and his/her Achievements
For example
“Honey, have you changed your hairstyle? This color suits you very well! You look younger!”
This will definitely make your partner feel By being noticed and recognized, he/she will think that your love is stable and continuous. In this case, he/she will be more willing to tolerate and accommodate you when encountering problems.
If the other person cannot feel that you recognize him in daily life, he will not be willing to pay a lot for you at critical times.
2. Affirm your partner’s emotions and feelings
For example, when the other party encounters setbacks or unfair treatment, When you feel frustrated and angry, never say, "It's nothing, it's just a small thing, cheer up and stop worrying about it."
This is a denial of the other person's emotions, making him or her feel as if he shouldn't be so pretentious. It's because you feel that he or she is too fragile. This feeling of not being understood will make him or her psychologically reject you.
The correct way to do business is to accept his or her negative emotions, acknowledge his frustration and anger, and make him feel that he is loved by you and that he can rely on you.
For example, you can say, "I understand how you feel. You are really wronged this time. I would be even more angry if you were in your position!"
3.Affirm your partner's role in the marriage.
For example, "Thanks to you, my success today is inseparable from your support and dedication!" "With you here, I feel particularly at ease."
You should say things like this more often. When a person has a sense of value at home, he will have a stronger sense of happiness and be more motivated to work hard for the family.
If these three points can be done in daily life, the foundation of the relationship between husband and wife will be particularly strong.
When encountering conflicts and disagreements, coupled with the use of strategic business skills, problem solving will become more efficient.
