Many people don’t understand why some people can stay in love for 10 years, while some people feel like they can’t live together for a year. Today, the editor will discuss with you what is the secret of a good relationship between husband and wife. Let’s take a look. Take a look.
In fact, in my opinion, whether you are a couple or a couple, if you want to have a good relationship, you must first learn to communicate. This is why we have repeatedly emphasized why efficient communication can get twice the result with half the effort.
Let’s first take a look at whether there are such times in life, such as:
One: If the other person is having an affair, you don’t know if he or she is really willing to return to the family.
Two: My mother-in-law has been living at home. I don’t want to, but I don’t know how to tell my husband. Similar to some topics that are embarrassing, the other person will be unhappy once you talk about it.
Three: I feel that the other person does not care about me and is getting colder and colder, but when I say it, the other person denies it.
Four: Regarding sensitive topics such as family expenses, children’s education, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is easy to quarrel when they are discussed. The two people habitually avoid it, but they feel that if they do not talk about the relationship, they will be affected.
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At these times, communication is necessary but feels impossible. We call such communication “difficult communication”.
High-difficulty communication is actually emotional communication. If you want to have high-difficulty communication, you must make the following preparations:
One: Be prepared before communicating and make a mental draft. What do I want to say today, what do I want to express, and what results do I expect to achieve. Of course, this preparation does not require you to be as detailed as every sentence you want to say, but you should at least list a few main points you want to discuss with the other party.
Two: Don’t get carried away by your own emotions and the other person’s emotions as you talk. In the end, the problem is still unresolved. Therefore, you should be aware of your emotions when communicating, remind yourself not to use excessive words, and pause in time if the emotions of two people escalate.
Three: When chatting, pay attention to the topic and not the person. This seems to be a simple truth, but it is difficult to achieve. What was originally a matter-of-fact communication turned into a personal attack that hurt each other.
For example, say: "I have known that you are such a selfish person." So what you need to always remember is that if the other party's behavior or something makes you feel uncomfortable, then Just focus on specific things.
In communication, we should use more expressions such as "I feel" and "In my opinion".
Rather than decisively deciding the other person’s behavior: “You are..., you must..., you always...”
When you are ready for these, you will You will discover things that you found difficult to talk about before.It’s not so hard to say it now.
A little trick every day, let’s try these ones mentioned by the editor today, come on~!
