We have all heard of love at first sight and love that lasts a long time. Maybe you have experienced love at first sight or love that lasts a long time. So which one do you think is true love? Which one lasts longer? Do you prefer love at first sight or love over time?
1. Love at first sight and long-term love complement each other
In fact, love at first sight and long-term love are two stages of love. It is unrealistic to talk about individuals regardless of which one. The fundamental condition for two people to fall in love at first sight actually lies in the passion and sexual impulse of both parties. But what about the days after?
You need to spend a lot of energy to get along. Sooner or later, passion will become dull, and impulse will gradually become calm. This also means that "no matter how vigorously you met when you met, you will still end up reduced to a boring life of tea, rice, oil and salt."
From a psychological point of view, the average human emotional cycle is about 28 days.
In other words, even if you suddenly win tens of millions in lottery, you will calm down after this emotional cycle. Similarly, after 28 days of two people being together, no matter how strong their affection is, it will slowly fade away.
The little fairy who used to be gentle and considerate in your eyes now farts unscrupulously in front of you, and occasionally puts her feet that haven’t been washed for three days on your lap.
The urge for two people to be together will always fade, and the topics that used to come up will eventually be over. Even if you have fantasized about being in love countless times, only to realize that it was nothing more than that after you finally got together.
2. Love at first sight requires long-term love to maintain
To put it bluntly: the so-called love at first sight is just an illusion created by dopamine for two people. Because you have been in "fantasy love" before, each other has defined the other as a 100% perfect partner. With the blessing of the so-called "halo effect" of love at first sight, you will automatically block out each other's shortcomings and make up some imaginary ones. The other party's advantages do not exist at all.
It can be seen that if you want to develop a long-term relationship, the love at first sight model cannot be separated from the love that lasts for a long time. If you only love this person's shining points and reject all the unsatisfactory things about this person, then when the passion fades, all that will be left for each other is a piece of chicken feathers.
3. Falling in love over time is inseparable from love at first sight
If you have no feelings for a person from the beginning, will two people still fall in love over time? No, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will become emotional over time, but it will make you more likely to get bored.
You don’t like any of the characteristics of this person, so there is no reason to convince yourself to accept it. You didn’t have a good impression of this person from the beginning, and even felt a little disgusted with him. If you want to have a relationship with this person, you are actuallyTorturing myself.
Just like when you are alone in a room with an annoying person, you will not only feel embarrassed and uncomfortable all over your body, but you will even imagine in your mind that "this person exudes evil smells when he speaks and breathes" all the time. Looking forward to a quick escape.
When you don’t like someone from the beginning, it proves that “this person has no attraction to you. ”, so you have no way of seeing the advantages of this person. If you can't see the advantages, what can you see? Well, yes, the disadvantages of infinite magnification. Then will you still like her?
