When couples stay together every day, it is inevitable that they will have disagreements over some issues, so quarreling in love is a normal thing. But if you quarrel frequently, you need to pay attention. What should we do if we often quarrel in love?
1. Reasons why we often quarrel in love
During the quarrel , to understand the real reasons behind the other party. If she asks you angrily every time why she always plays games after get off work, her underlying consciousness is that she wants you to spend more time with him and care more about him. The essence of quarreling is not to win, but to learn to better express the love in your heart. When we quarrel, we must remember that we love each other. This is the first prerequisite. Don't quarrel just for the sake of quarreling, attack each other, and forget the conflicts and problems you want to solve.
Generally, if the needs of the other party or yourself are not met, you will become very angry and often express them by quarreling. Her subconscious mind is that my needs are not being met and I need to be cared for and noticed. Most people think that quarreling is always bad, but in fact it is not always bad or negative. Effective arguments make our lives better. Many times, we are all different people with different living habits and thoughts, so we need to get along. Arguing is a way to express one's own needs and understand the other person's true inner thoughts. Sometimes, by spreading the problem out, we can better understand each other. Resolve and reduce conflicts well.
2. What to do if you often quarrel in love
Sometimes quarrels are inevitable, but after a quarrel, you Has the problem been solved? Some people say that quarrels have positive meanings, because when you quarrel, you can understand the other party’s true thoughts. This statement has a certain truth; but more often than not, quarrels are just to vent emotions and hurt the other party. Even create irreparable rifts. The reason why many couples quarrel repeatedly is because the problem has not been resolved, so it is like a cycle of reincarnation and they can never escape from this cycle. After the quarrel, the emotions will definitely calm down. This is the best time to solve the problem, but this stage is often ignored.
As mentioned above, emotions are often out of control during quarrels, so many people have no principles at all and will say whatever they want, and they will say whatever they want to hurt the other party more. Such a quarrel is likely to lead to a complete breakup between two people, but after a breakup, regret often follows. Once the injury occurs, even if the two people reconcile, the scars will still remain, so some people may be unable to calm down for a long time because of the other person's words.
Before the relationship begins or at the beginning, it is best to make some agreements, and both parties must clearly indicate the bottom line. If there is no agreement in the early stage of a relationship, you can make a decision after the quarrel has calmed down.Agreement. Principles are meant to be adhered to. Once the bottom line is agreed upon, one party should not easily forgive the other party if it violates it. Only in this way can both parties restrain themselves in the quarrel and stick to the bottom line and principles.
