The secular world puts shackles on people - love must be unique, otherwise it is just love. So when I see someone I love, I feel fettered by the world, reflect on myself, and start thinking: Am I a scumbag?
< h2>What is the psychology of falling in love with someone when you meet them1. Start with love and end with etiquette
Everyone has the instinct to get close to beautiful things. When they see beautiful people with good personalities, A good girl, so I fell in love with him regardless of my own safety... Then I was told that the other girl had a boyfriend/I was sent a good guy card/I felt low self-esteem...Then I met the next one...
Herd mentality, It will always drive people to yearn for love. When they see couples around them, they will have a desire for love. However, when they are not strong enough, they will "be in love and stop in courtesy".
The contradiction between ideal (love) and reality (love cannot be obtained) is constantly circulating, thus forming the phenomenon of falling in love with each other.
2. Curiosity about love
Falling in love with someone when you see them is actually a kind of novelty.
Initially, interest will arise due to hormones and curiosity, the so-called "love". But only as time goes by, the physical passion will be stimulated by other more unknown people, and I always feel that the mysterious veil on the person I have liked for a while has been completely taken off.
This kind of love is not because of the object, but because of curiosity, because of the unknown love itself.
What to do if you fall in love with someone you see?
Some people suffer from psychological problems because they fall in love with someone they see. Burden, I despise myself and think I am a scumbag.
In fact, the "love" here is just the excitement of possibility or fantasy, and has not been put into actual action.
A real scumbag is one who establishes romantic relationships (or has affairs?) with several girls at the same time. Therefore, falling in love with someone when you meet them is only a psychological possibility, and it does not mean that you are flirtatious in character.
Move with your heart and move with the blade. Only the strong have the freedom of knowledge, while the weak can only live in deception. Respecting the inner free will is the beginning of truly loving someone.
When you meet someone who loves someone else, you actually don’t love anyone else. —— Osamu Dazai, "Disqualification in the World"
People who are loyal and loyal only know the little bits and pieces of love, while only those who change their minds when they see changes understand the great sorrow and pain of love. ——Oscar Wilde, "The Picture of Dorian Gray"
Love can be unique or philanthropic. Face your heart squarely, respect the order of the outside world, and be true to yourself (express yourself honestly).
