Yesterday, a friend of mine asked me this question: Why doesn’t every relationship last more than 3 months?
Then he told me about him and his exes, and complained that he was No matter how he treated them well, all he got was a breakup, and each of his relationships lasted less than three months, so he began to doubt himself.
I believe that many friends have experienced this kind of experience, or are currently experiencing it.
However, what I want to say is that the way others love you is taught by you!
I know that many friends think this way: they think that to love someone, you need to put your whole body into it. Give with heart. Thinking of the other person in everything and accommodating the other person in everything, thinking that this can lead to long-lasting love and sympathy from others.
And the answer reality gives us is: no.
Why? In fact, the reason is very simple. When you don’t know how to love yourself, others will not know how to love you.
Love is a kind of balance. If you give too much to the other person and too little to yourself, the love will be unbalanced, and an unbalanced relationship will not go far.
So at any time, learn to love yourself first.
What is loving yourself?
Read, exercise, enrich your horizons and experience, improve your professional skills, become a better version of yourself, believe in yourself, and appreciate yourself.
Sometimes, the more you love yourself, the more others will love you.
The nobler you are at heart, the more precious you will be to others.
Good love promotes and grows each other.
If you find that you are becoming increasingly unhappy in a relationship, stop your losses in time.
Don’t look down on yourself at any time. When you look down on yourself, others will look down on you.
I remember when I was young, I liked what Zhang Ailing said: If you love someone, you will humble yourself to the dust, and then bloom into flowers.
What I like very much now is: You have the upbringing not to hurt others, but you lack the aura of not being hurt. If no one protects you, please be kind in the future and be kind. Protect yourself.
What about 30 years old?
So what about 40 years old?
50 years old, 60 years old...
Age never stops. Excuses before, at any time, as long as you don’t give up on yourself, no one can give up on you, understand?
