In modern society, the term spare tire is no longer unfamiliar. Many people have been or are becoming someone else's backup tire. But how to avoid being used as a spare tire? Let’s talk about it today.
1. What is a tree hole?
The phrase "You are my tree hole" means that you can talk about your feelings, and I will listen silently, but I will not give any response. So, if someone says to you: "You are my hole in the tree," then he/she just wants someone to talk to, not a real friend or partner.
2. How to avoid being used as a spare tire?
1. Make your position clear
First, you need to make your position clear. If you just want to maintain a purely friendship relationship with the other person, then express it in time. Otherwise, the other party may misunderstand your intentions and use you as a backup.
2. Don’t be too enthusiastic
Secondly, don’t be too enthusiastic. If you are particularly interested in someone, don't pursue him/her too much. Because it is easy for the other party to feel that you are too proactive, which can lead to resentment.
3. Keep a moderate distance
Again, keep a moderate distance. If you have a close relationship with someone, be careful not to become too dependent on that person. Otherwise, once the other person has a new love interest, you will become a backup.
4. Increase your own charm
Finally, increase your own charm. If you want to attract more people of the opposite sex, you need to improve your charm. This can be achieved by studying, exercising, improving your image, etc.
It’s hard to be used as a backup, but we can avoid it by being clear about where we stand, not being overly enthusiastic, maintaining a healthy distance, and increasing our charisma. I hope everyone can find their true happiness.
