Question: I have been in frequent contact with a girl on a blind date since we met. We also chat a lot on WeChat every day. Sometimes we have video calls at night, and dating is normal. But after I held hands with her some time ago, I suddenly felt that her WeChat chat was not as enthusiastic as before, and her reply speed was much slower than before. What went wrong?
How will things develop after dating a girl and holding hands?
Answer: Why do you think girls on a blind date are a little cold after holding hands? Did she really show indifference, or was your self-perception wrong? Maybe she is at least busy at the moment, and she was relatively free before, so she happens to have time to actively reply to you. And now that she only has time to look at her phone occasionally, you will naturally feel that her replies are cold. Let’s make this clear first before we can do the next analysis. Many boys worry about gains and losses like this when getting along with girls. In fact, girls are not interesting at all. He has already made up a set of pictures in his mind.
If the girl you are dating is a real girl and she becomes cold towards you when you hold hands, how will she react when you hold hands? Is she willing? Or resentful? Still a little reluctant but agree? The most important thing is that you didn't say how to analyze it. Maybe she felt that the progress was a bit fast and was not mentally prepared. She felt a little scared after holding hands, so she retracted herself into a safe shell and wanted to downplay your relationship and think about it again.
This may be behavior beyond her control and not her intention, but she feels scared for no reason and she can’t explain the reason. Maybe you need to give her some time to accept this situation.
Or the girl on a blind date thinks that your behavior of holding hands is a bit slutty, and she is a bit conservative, so she may have some opinions about you at the moment, and is afraid that you are unreliable and will not cherish what you get, etc. If this is the case, then you also need to retreat to a safe distance and wait until she trusts you enough before making physical contact.
In the end, no matter whether the girl on a blind date is cold to you after holding hands, or why she is willing to be cold to you, as long as she If she is still willing to continue to contact you, continue chatting with you, and continue dating you, then you don't have to worry and just slowly change her view of you. What you should be worried about is if the girl you are dating ignores you after holding hands, does not reply to your messages, and does not accept your invitation. In this case, you should pay attention. She may have already passed you by.
