Not long ago, the backstage received such a request for help: I ??confessed to the girl I like, but she neither explicitly refused nor agreed. Instead, she said, "Give me a month to make her heart beat. If she doesn't make her heart beat, , then we can’t be together. "What should we do in this situation?
In fact, if you confess to a girl and you don’t clearly agree to it, no matter how legitimate her reasons for not accepting you are, she will probably be fine. Just refused. Now let me talk about what to do if a girl confesses that she likes you, but she neither refuses nor agrees.
1. Take the initiative
First of all, we do not advocate confession, because once you confess, you will The choice of the success or failure of the relationship is left to the girl. And women are inherently unwilling to make decisions. Everyone must keep this in mind.
So we have to keep the rhythm firmly in our own hands. If a girl tells you that I will consider it, what should we say: "Okay, you think about it carefully, and I will also consider it by the way." Think about it. "The next day, I told the girl, I know you are a good girl and I am very happy to chat with you. Let's just be friends, because there is no risk of breaking up as friends.
Use retreat to advance and seize the initiative. Take the initiative you lost in your previous confession back into your own hands. This seems like we are actively entering the friendship zone with girls. In fact, our purpose is to let girls know that we have no desires and desires, thereby reducing their resistance to us. It's just a fine-tuning technique to facilitate subsequent operations.
After taking the initiative, we need to let the girl follow our script, so that the success rate can be increased in the future. Women only like men who are in control. At this stage, we must continue to break the psychological defenses the girl has against us and constantly enter the girl’s comfort zone!
2. Two types of friendship zones
The first type of friendship zone is that your own value is not enough, and the girl doesn’t like you at all, so she automatically puts you in the friendship zone.
This situation is more difficult to operate because the girl is not very interested in you. This is often the case. What usually happens in this kind of friendship zone is that a boy confesses his love to a girl before he has much attraction to the girl, and then is directly rejected by the girl. Most of the boys in this situation are passive, and the girls are willing to enjoy the boys' efforts, and eventually become a spare tire.
In this case, we can only improve ourselves first and temporarily withdraw from the girl’s life. Keep enriching your life, and wait until you are good enough to break into girls' lives again.
The second type of friendship zone is one that attracts enough, but does not have enough physical upgrades and ambiguous relationships. If you stay in the comfort stage for too long, the girl will become more accustomed to being your friend.
For newbiesSaid, this aspect deserves more attention, because it is really difficult to grasp the degree of physical movement and the degree of ambiguity to express one's feelings.
3. Establish an attitude
A man must have his own attitude. For example, if I like a girl again, If she proposed an unequal treaty, I would reject it outright. Because I know that love is originally a game process, and unbalanced efforts will definitely not have good results in the end.
Just like the thing we talked about at the beginning, many boys will be very happy when they hear that there will be a one-month trial period, and they can’t wait to give their hearts to girls, no matter what the girl asks Will answer any question.
Once your attitude is too low, you may be reduced to a spare tire, but you may suffer disaster if you are used as a cash machine.
Therefore, we must stick to our own attitude and never abandon our own posture and framework to cater to girls unprincipled.
Girls always like mature men, and mature men are obviously able to navigate a relationship with ease. Men who can grasp a relationship will definitely not cater to girls excessively. They will only seek an equal relationship.
If you can do these things, then you will definitely not enter the friendship zone, because your self-esteem will not allow it!
