After confessing my love, girls alienated me - this is a key problem that some boys will encounter after confessing their love. What is the psychology behind girls’ alienation after being confessed?
Before confessing, maybe you You have done a lot of ideological struggle, maybe you have carefully prepared your confession plan for a long time, maybe you are so nervous that your whole body is shaking...
Nothing is more anxious than being alienated after a confession, which is neither a rejection nor an agreement. This situation is indeed very uncomfortable.
1. Your confession is too abrupt
At first, girls just treat you as a friend, and then they get to know you. You, we are friendly with you, but you are interested in taking advantage of this beauty!
A girl may have this kind of mentality when facing your confession - I regard you as a friend, but you think you actually want to Fall in love with me!
Therefore, if you want to develop love in friendship, you need to take it step by step, pay attention to the development of the relationship, and wait until the girl feels different about you before confessing.
A confession that is too sudden is not a surprise for girls, but an accident. Many girls may instinctively avoid it.
Therefore, confession requires foreshadowing and transition. Without a certain emotional foundation and the necessary throbbing emotions, girls will be frightened by your confession rather than moved.
2. Girls don’t want to hurt you
Girls don’t know how to reject you and are embarrassed to hurt you. She has no choice but to distance herself from you in behavior and let you know her decision.
The alienation at this time is a sign that the girl doesn’t want to hurt you, or it may be that she doesn’t have the courage to refuse you harshly - in the end, she won’t be able to become friends.
In this case, the girl’s intention is not to accept your confession, and she doesn’t want you to suffer the pain of rejection, so she wants to use distant behavior to hint to you that there is no possibility of you being lovers, and you are not The type she likes...
Falling in love requires fate, so don’t be too pushy with inappropriate candidates.
3. Girls have scruples about relationships
After I confessed my love, girls distanced themselves from me. It could also be you. He and a girl have a crush on each other, but because the girl is wary of falling in love, she chooses to stay away from reality.
Maybe she has too low self-esteem and feels that she is not worthy of you; maybe she thinks that you will have no future and cannot make it to the end; maybe you do not have enough strength to protect your love; maybe she feels that you are not worthy of your love. There are better girls...
Of course, girls' concerns about love also vary from person to person and according to the situation.
But looking at its essence, girls are escaping from reality. She needs more courage and encouragement from you at this moment before she has the confidence to fall in love with you.
