It is a common phenomenon for boys to come back to me after having a fight with their girlfriends. Why does this happen? Below I will analyze it from several aspects.
1. Seek comfort and support
When boys have a fight with their girlfriends, they may feel depressed, lonely and helpless. At this time, they need a listener to express their feelings and provide comfort and support. As friends, we can provide a broad mind, allowing them to open up and release their inner stress.
During this process, we must listen patiently without interrupting or judging their feelings. By expressing understanding and compassion, we can help them ease their emotions and regain balance.
2. Seeking advice and solutions
Sometimes boys come back to us because they need some advice and solutions to deal with problems with their girlfriends. They may feel that they cannot think for themselves or make good decisions, so they seek outside advice.
In this case, we can give some constructive suggestions and share some similar experiences or stories. By sharing our perspectives and experiences, we can help them better understand problems and find solutions.
3. Seeking emotional support
After boys quarrel with their girlfriends, they may feel emotionally empty and lost. They need someone to fill this void and give them emotional support and support.
As friends, we can be their spiritual support and give them warmth and comfort. We can accompany them through difficult moments and make them feel cared for and valued.
4. Seek new ways of communicating
After boys and girlfriends quarrel, they may reflect on their behavior and communication methods. They may realize that they are handling problems inappropriately and need to find new ways of communicating.
At this time, we can discuss effective communication skills and methods with them. We can share some books, articles or experiences to help them improve communication with their girlfriends, thereby reducing the occurrence of quarrels.
5. Seeking to re-examine the relationship
After boys quarrel with their girlfriends, they may start to re-examine their relationship with their girlfriends. They may be thinking about whether they are really suitable to be together and whether they should continue to stick to it.
At this time, we can give them some time and space to think. We can encourage them to think calmly and weigh the pros and cons. Most importantly, we respect their decisions and support them in whatever path they choose.
When boys come back to us after quarreling with their girlfriends, it may be because they need comfort, advice, emotional support, new ways of communication or re-examination of their relationship.. As friends, we should give them understanding, support and encouragement, help them get through difficulties and find solutions to their problems.
