I came across a question that I found very interesting when I was browsing the post forum - does sleeping in separate rooms really affect a relationship between couples? I also have some of my own opinions on this question, but of course this does not mean that my answer is certain. Yes, in my opinion, there is no right or wrong answer to this question. Everyone’s living environment needs are different, so don’t comment if you don’t like it.
Let me talk about my parents first. I have talked about their stories before. They are the most affectionate couple I have ever seen. I have never seen them quarrel or blush. My mother loves my father very much, and my father is very attached to my mother. They have been together for a lifetime, and they have done it all. This is also an emotional/family realm that I have been pursuing.
They have almost never been apart in decades (except when one party is on a business trip) and have never shared a bed together, let alone slept in a separate room!
And my marriage is also 19 years old. We are in a very good relationship over the years and are getting happier as time goes by. We are very compatible as a couple. We had arguments and minor conflicts when we were young, but we got along well.
After we had two children after sharing the same bed for more than ten years, we moved to a larger house with four bedrooms and four bathrooms. After moving, I proposed sleeping in separate rooms, one person per room! Six years have passed now! I don’t feel that this has any negative impact on our relationship! On the contrary, because the quality of life has improved, we both feel more comfortable with each other. .
At the beginning, my husband once coquettishly asked to move back in and sleep with me, but I didn’t agree. But after a long time, he gradually realized that the most important thing is that the quality of our sleep has actually improved as two middle-aged people sleeping in separate rooms!
Let me first talk about why I choose to share rooms:< /p>
Our work and rest times are different, and sharing rooms allows us to arrange our own work and rest more freely.
We also have different preferences. For example, I like to read Little Red Book and watch emotional dramas, while he likes to watch political explanations, historical stories and news and current affairs, so that we will not interfere with each other's self-entertainment activities.
He sometimes snores, and the older he gets, the louder it is now. I am a light sleeper, starting from when I was young. My sleep is relatively fragile. So I need absolute quietness when sleeping!
The older a person reaches middle age, the more they need high-quality sleep. I think this is the original purpose of most couples who choose to sleep in separate rooms.
So how can we separate rooms without affecting the relationship between husband and wife? Take myself as an example:
We usually have no barriers to communication. We usually communicate a lot. Basically, I will go to his room to act coquettishly, or he will come to my room to cuddle. In addition to sleeping time, we usually do many other things together to maintain this sense of harmony as a couple.
Some people say that they like to hug their husband and take itWarm, haha~ I also feel this very deeply! But then I bought myself a particularly good smart electric blanket, and I didn’t have this trouble at all.
Our married life is very regular and harmonious, and there is no difference in frequency before and after the separation of houses! Don’t misunderstand that separation of houses means “asexuality”!
There is no difference in separation of houses. Heart!
As for the future, I haven’t thought about it. Maybe when we get old, we will sleep on the same bed again and take care of each other! Then I must buy a super large maximum size bed, because I am used to sleeping on it. Turning over and over before reading.
Therefore, those who say that sleeping in separate rooms will affect the relationship between husband and wife do not hold true here. As long as the couple works together, their relationship will definitely not be affected by sleeping in separate rooms. I have experienced it myself~!
