Regarding the matter of girlfriend being angry, it is a headache for every boy. He may know how to quickly coax his girlfriend once or twice, but if he does it too many times, he will be at a loss. Today I will teach you how to apologize effectively to your partner. Don’t walk away and learn together.
1. Make sure you really want to apologize
If you don’t really want to apologize, your Your words, tone, and actions will give you away, and the other person won't sense your sincerity. If you pretend to apologize, you may say something that makes people even more angry. For example:
"I was wrong, okay?"
"I admit that I was wrong, but I didn't mean it"
"I didn't expect you to be so Sensitive"
2. Before apologizing, find out why the other person is angry/sad.
Before you apologize to the other person, you should first figure out what you did wrong and what is your fault. Which of your actions offended the other person. If you don't know, your apology will be meaningless. For example:
"Although I don't know what I did wrong, I'm still sorry"
"I don't know what I said that hurt you, in short, I'm sorry"< /p>
In fact, you can find out what you did wrong by asking the other party.
"I'm sorry, you seem to be angry. Can you tell me why you are angry?"
"You seem to be sad, is it because I just said XXX?"
3. Admit specific mistakes
Admitting specific mistakes can let the other party see your sincerity. You can use the following apology formula: I'm sorry + specific things you did wrong + promise to change/request to make up for it. . For example:
"I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said you looked ugly in this dress. I will never judge your appearance in the future."
"I'm really sorry, I I didn’t know your grandfather had passed away.”
“I’m sorry, I usually pay too little attention to you. I will pay more attention to you in the future!”
Please work hard after making a promise. Achieve it, otherwise you will hurt the other party again.
4. Don’t attribute the cause to the other person
You only need to admit your mistakes, not To pick on the other side. If the other party is also at fault, they will also want to express their apology to you after receiving your sincere apology.
You can say: "I'm sorry, I shouldn't yell at you. I will try to control my anger in the future!"
Instead of: "I'm sorry, I shouldn't yell at you." Yes, but I yelled at you because you just..."
5. You can explain to the other partyExplain, but don’t make excuses
If you didn’t do something wrong intentionally, you can explain the reason to the other person, but be careful not to turn it into an excuse.
This is the explanation: "I'm sorry, I forgot your birthday. Maybe it's because too many things have happened recently. I should write down your lunar birthday every year. You can give me one." Is there a chance to make up for it?"
This is the excuse: "I'm sorry, I forgot your birthday, mainly because you always celebrate your birthday on the lunar calendar, and I can't remember it."
6. If the other party is still very angry
Give the other party more time to digest their emotions. Don’t expect the other party to forgive you immediately, and don’t force the other party to forgive you.
You can also try to do something to make it up to the other person, such as sending the other person a gift or doing something for the other person.
The following thoughts may prevent you from apologizing:
You feel that the other party has done something wrong, so why should you apologize first?
Worry that the other party will make things worse for you. Become a licking dog...
And I want to say:
① If you value this relationship more, you may need to put away your pride first and let yourself be the first to apologize people.
② Secondly, you can also ask the other party to apologize to you after you apologize.
③Finally, if the other person really despises you because of this, you can also communicate with the other person about your feelings and needs, and tell the other person what you want them to do.
More communication will lead to fewer misunderstandings and conflicts. Have you learned it?
