Question: I met my girlfriend on a blind date and have been together for about half a year. Although we haven’t been together for a long time, I feel that she is the kind of person I want to marry. But a few days ago, I accidentally learned that she has an ex-boyfriend who she has been with for many years. I am a little concerned about this, and I can also feel that she does not like me that much, but she is indeed a suitable partner for me to marry. Is it possible to get married?
Do you mind if your girlfriend has an ex-boyfriend whom you have been in love with for many years?
Answer: I think you can move on, as long as she is not disconnected from her ex-boyfriend.
In fact, there are many people around me who are married to people they don’t love, but they are very good to their significant other and do their best. responsibility. Apart from not loving you, I can give him anything. Why? Because they have no choice but to separate from their first love, and it is impossible to remain single all their lives, they just find someone to get married and have children.
There is a lyrics: "Why do we break up with those we once loved? And the years and months that we did not love." Since your girlfriend and her first ex-boyfriend are separated, it means that they cannot be together. No matter which family disagrees, or there are other problems, in short, they have separated, otherwise you will not show up.
Whether you insist on it or not depends on what you want to do. For example, if you want this person to be your whole heart and eyes, then you should say goodbye to her quickly and find the right person. If you just love her and don't mind that she doesn't love you that much in her heart, and considering reality, she is really nice to you and is willing to marry you, and the conditions are suitable, then that's fine.
However, if her first ex-boyfriend comes back to look for her in the future, we don’t know if she will leave you alone. Everything may have variables. She had been dating her first love for a long time, but it might have faded long ago. If she feels better living with you, maybe her emotions will gradually shift towards you.
If she doesn't like you that much now, she won't be able to say that in the future. Unless he is the kind of person who has a deep obsession and has someone else in his heart all his life, then it would be unfair to both her and you if she lives with you.
So it depends on what you think about this kind of thing. Do you know why they broke up? I think this reason is quite important. If it's because their family doesn't agree, the two of them will be beaten when their relationship is deep, and their unwillingness will make them obsessed. If her ex-boyfriend changed his mind, cheated on her, dumped her, and she was hurt, then it would be another direction.
In short, looking at what I’m seeing, I personally don’t think it’s impossible to get married. But if you really mind that she has an ex-boyfriend whom she has been in love with for many years, then don't force it.
