Husband and wife must not habitually have a cold war! Because often, the couple will break up when they are cold. Many people think that the Cold War is to keep each other calm and avoid conflicts, but they all ignore that conflicts cannot be avoided and can only be resolved. The Cold War not only failed to resolve any contradictions, but also created new ones.
1. Let the relationship between husband and wife fade away.
What are feelings? Feelings are something that will fade away without contact and communication.
The relationship between people is accumulated bit by bit, and the relationship between husband and wife is refined bit by bit from dressing, eating, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. It can also be understood in this way. Rather than saying It's a feeling, rather than a habit.
But if a couple has been in a cold war for a long time, ignores each other, lives separately, or even separate beds and lives separately. After a long time, and you are used to living without each other, what kind of relationship is there?
When a couple has no communication for a long time, even if they meet every day under the same roof, but see each other's frosty faces, who will change? They all feel depressed and want to escape.
It may all be just a gamble at the beginning, but the cold war will become addictive and make you last longer each time. The more cold wars you have, the longer the relationship will naturally fade away.
2. Let children not have enough sense of security.
A friend once mentioned to me in a chat that there was a time when she and her husband had a dispute over whether to bring her mother-in-law over to live with her. After the dispute failed, the two of them unanimously chose to have a cold war. .
For two whole months, the two of them didn't say a word. She only cooked meals for her and her son, and her husband usually didn't come back until after dinner. Every night, after my son falls asleep, my husband goes to the second bedroom to sleep.
Even if the two of them feel that they have kept the secret well, at least their husband will come back every day, and the two have never quarreled in front of their son. Sometimes the family of three will sit together and watch cartoons with their son. .
But one day my husband came back a little late from overtime work, and my son refused to sleep. He suddenly hugged his friend's leg and cried "Wow". He said, "Mom, daddy, don't you?" I'll be back soon, dear, don't you want me anymore? Mom, will you also want me?"
At that moment, my friend's heart was broken. It turned out that his son had seen everything, but after all, he still When he was young, he had a narrow cognition and thought that if there was a problem between his parents, he would be left alone.
She felt heartbroken when she thought that her son had lived in fear for so many days. That night, she and her husband talked all night. The two agreed that no matter what happened, they would never be in a cold war again.
Because the Cold War will not only hurt the couple, but also the children.
3. The Cold War gave third parties an opportunity to take advantage of it.
When a couple is in a cold war, it is the most emotionally fragile time. If a suitable and hard-working third party appears at this time, the success rate can be doubled.
Suppose your husband is so busy at work that he doesn’t even have time to take a few bites of food every day. He is under great pressure, and you are in a cold war at this time. He works overtime late at night and you don’t even give him a light. Stay, let alone comfort him with a few words.
Then at this time, there is a gentle and considerate mistress who greets him, brings him meals, and even helps him with some simple tasks, and he will be tempted to some extent.
Suppose again that your wife is sick and goes to the hospital alone to hang up a sling. Women are physically uncomfortable and psychologically more vulnerable. And you are in the cold war at this time, failing to take care of her or comfort her.
Then at this time, there is a third party, a warm man, who will accompany you wholeheartedly, take care of you tenderly, and fulfill your husband's duties for you. There is no guarantee that she will not be emotional.
Many successful marriages involving a third party occurred when the couple had emotional problems. After all, flies do not bite seamless eggs.
It is better to be noisy and noisy until the relationship breaks down, than to suppress oneself and fight against each other, and then become a passerby in the cold.
Many couples who are used to the cold war do not solve the problem properly until the day they part ways. Sometimes the problem between you may only be a matter of one or two sentences. How regretful would that be?
