Many people are not optimistic when it comes to long-distance relationships, thinking that long-distance relationships will break up sooner or later. This idea is actually wrong. For those of you who feel as if you are facing a formidable enemy and strongly resist the mention of long-distance relationships, I can understand your worries, but when soldiers come to stop you, water comes to cover you up. If you have started a long-distance relationship and want to maintain it for a long time, you must know what you are most afraid of in a long-distance relationship? Here is a list of 4 problems faced by long-distance relationships.
1. Geographic boundaries lead to mutual insecurity
The distance will directly determine the intimacy of the relationship to a certain extent. Two people who have been together for a long time will be very close, but when they don't contact each other after a period of time, or they only communicate online, they will become unfamiliar. This geographical distance will also cause gaps in the lives of two people, and they will not be familiar with each other's lives. Over time, it will cause two people to feel insecure. Therefore, when many long-distance relationships break up, they will complain: "When someone else is sick, her boyfriend can take her to the hospital; when I am sick, you can only say to have a good rest and drink more hot water." At this time, girls will feel Insecure, I have a boyfriend but no care from my boyfriend.
2. Physical boundaries cannot sense the other person’s emotions
People’s need for physical contact is innate Come. In the infant stage, a child will judge whether he is in a safe state through physical contact between his mother and him; in adulthood, his partner will judge whether he is in a loved state through physical contact.
Physical contact between lovers will affect the emotional density of the two people. Psychological research shows that physical contact is conducive to establishing a deep relationship, which means that frequent physical contact between two people will heat up the relationship. The relationship between two people. Many times when two people quarrel, a close couple can resolve it by meeting or hugging each other, but people in a long-distance relationship cannot do this.
3. Language boundaries reduce the desire to communicate with each other
When you are not here when I want to say something, you have When the time came, I happened to lose my desire to share. Because communication in long-distance relationships is inconvenient, it is impossible to reply to the other party in time. When she shares something with you with great expectations, you may be busy and there is no timely positive feedback at all. It may be that for a long time, you two The desire for communication between them will gradually weaken, and the distance between hearts will become farther and farther.
4. Long distance time reduces future expectations
What is the most difficult thing about long-distance relationships? It's not the distance, it's the fact that towards the end, the future becomes less and less visible. I don’t know when the long distance will end, and I don’t know if the relationship between you can reach the end. ThatIt’s really hard to feel full of expectations but disappointed.
When two people are together, especially when they get older, they want a happy ending when they fall in love. But long-distance relationships may cause more problems and lead to many differences between you. For example: Which city will you want to settle in in the future? When will you get married? When can the long distance end? Many problems will not be solved because of being in a different place. To put it bluntly, being in a different place adds a lot of uncertainty. Sometimes you don't even know whether you are included in the other party's blueprint.
This fear of the unknown and the disagreement between the two people will slowly consume each other's feelings, and eventually you will break up.
