I recently received a private message from a fan asking: If the partner never stays with me, will we break up sooner or later? This issue must be of concern to many friends, so I will discuss it with you today, nonsense. Without further ado, let’s take a look at what to do if your partner doesn’t accompany you!
In fact, I have always felt that when two people fall in love, , It is very difficult to cultivate common interests. Men have male nature, and women have female nature.
Girls drag boys to watch dramas and palace battles, and boys drag girls to play games and go to Internet cafes. Most of them are actually bored and just endure it silently.
But the reality is that people who don’t have the same hobbies when they fall in love are not just you, but at least 60% of couples are like this.
The other person may not necessarily like the things you like. Out of love and liking for you, he may be patient with Nobuko and accompany you once or twice, but if the times are too many, she will always get distracted. She will resist, and you will feel that she does not understand you and does not love you anymore, which will turn into complaints and quarrels.
But many times, when we cover up the guise of cultivating common hobbies, we are selfish in our hearts. We call it a common hobby, but in fact we want the other person to accompany us to do what we like. . It becomes control, it becomes the other party's resistance to communication, and it becomes not loving enough.
So it becomes a couple in name only, you do yours and she does hers.
Does it mean that couples who have no common interests must reach this point and end up breaking up?
In fact, it is not the best hobby between lovers. Just fall in love and treat falling in love as a deep hobby. What is the other person’s mind, how to be a good husband and wife, and what are the differences between men and women.
When you regard falling in love as a lifelong hobby, the quality of your relationship will become higher and higher, and this sense of pleasure and success will make you more devoted. Gradually, the other person will feel that it is great to be with you, and you can pass on what you have learned, understood, and needed to the other person in getting along and chatting, creating a positive cycle.
When entering the positive cycle, the two of you did not cultivate it deliberately, but instead had countless common hobbies, because the two of you What I like most is the other person's understanding of love, high emotional intelligence, and the feeling of being with the other person. What you are doing is just the seasoning.
When you force your partner to accept something that is unacceptable in the name of love, her mentality will be resistant. She has no interest at all, so she can only deal with you as if you are completing a task.
When you can regard love as a hobby, there are many things that seem boring, but as long as two people do it together, it will be filled with a lot of unexpected joy.interest. In this process, the two people understand and satisfy each other, and then they are more willing to enter each other's world.
There are not so many matches made in heaven. They are all cultivated, and they are run-in with each other. They have high emotional intelligence and understand love. Drinking water is 70% full, and love is 80% warm. In the end, they became the most enviable and loving couple in the eyes of others.
Therefore, before you two become rigid or have conflicts, treat love as a hobby for both of you and cultivate it in depth.
