It is actually a good thing to have a good girlfriend, but if you are not worthy of your girlfriend's excellence, the relationship may not last long. After all, love must be evenly matched. If your girlfriend is excellent but you are not worthy of it, then you will be in a weak position in this relationship and be depressed for a long time. What should I do if my girlfriend is too excellent and I have low self-esteem and want to give up?
1. If you don’t want to change, you have to give up
You just look at the excellence of your girlfriend, but you don’t want to change. I hope your girlfriend will tolerate you based on the past relationship. Not leaving you. If you go into love with this mentality, then I advise you to break up with your girlfriend as soon as possible.
Because as time goes by, your girlfriend will become better and better, and there will definitely be someone as good as her around her. She can be loyal to you for a while, but she cannot be loyal to you for the rest of her life. You don’t have the confidence to keep an excellent girlfriend, and you don’t know what your competitiveness is. This world is so cruel sometimes.
Maybe your girlfriend was too young when she was with you and didn’t understand love at all. Maybe she just wanted to be noticed, or she was under a lot of study pressure and needed to find someone to relieve her loneliness. The two of them got together naturally, and their relationship seemed particularly pure.
What is adult love? It must be inseparable from [equal value exchange] - what kind of person you are determines what kind of person you will meet, what kind of person will choose you, and what kind of person you will end up having a personal relationship with. Determined for life. It is almost impossible to achieve results in a relationship where the personal value gap between the two parties is too large. For example:
She is engaged in large-scale innovation in 985 or 211 universities, while you are chasing TV series in a junior college;
She has received a scholarship, but you are in In the dormitory, she is worrying about next month's Huabei;
The friends around her are all leaders in various fields, and your friend is still drunk in the nightclub...
What is your common topic in the future? How can we work together in a city? How can you fit into her circle, and how can she accept you as a friend?
As the gap between your personal values ??widens, there are more and more irreconcilable conflicts between you. No matter in terms of thoughts, conversation, vision, etc., she cannot understand you, and neither can you. Find out how she feels.
2. What to do if your girlfriend is too good?
Since you feel that you are not worthy of your girlfriend, then work hard! Breaking up won't solve any problems at all.
The problem of your low self-esteem lies here. It cannot be solved by changing to a bad girlfriend. If you choose to give up on yourself, then no one can save you, and you will eventually be Entering into a very embarrassing situation:
——Since you had this girlfriendAfter making friends, your vision will start to become higher, but your personal value will remain stagnant. In the future, the people you like will often be unworthy of you, and the people who like you will also be looked down upon by you.
You have never thought about how much energy and motivation this love will give you. Even, selfishly speaking, when you live in a way that makes you "out of reach" , looking back at my “sensitive and low self-esteem self”, it’s funny to think about it.
Do you know what love is?
The true meaning of "falling in love" is not a tool to squeeze out the current life, but a springboard to achieve a better relationship. Because of the existence of this love, your career, studies and life begin to enter a virtuous cycle, and the other person also continues to become better because of your existence. The existence of love is inherently a beautiful thing. Its existence will urge you to grow, encourage you to make progress, and inspire you to work hard for a better life.
In fact, you also know in your heart, how to keep yourself confident and be worthy of the person you like - then study hard, expand your social network, and broaden your horizons, even though you cannot change your family background. Yes, but other things can be achieved completely by your efforts the day after tomorrow.
