Blind date is a traditional way of marriage and love. Blind dates arranged by elders are very common in Chinese society. However, for many people, blind dates arranged by elders are not reliable. The following will explore from several aspects whether blind dates arranged by elders are reliable and how to decline politely.
1. Reliability of blind dates
Blind dates arranged by elders may sometimes be reliable because they usually take factors such as family background, economic conditions, and character into consideration. They hope to find a suitable partner through blind dates to ensure the happiness of their children. Elders usually choose families with whom they have good relationships for blind dates, which can increase the chances of both parties getting to know each other.
However, there are also some problems with blind dates arranged by elders. They may only focus on superficial conditions, such as education, work and income, and ignore more important factors, such as whether hobbies and personality match. Elders may interfere too much in their children's marriage choices, causing them to feel pressured and constrained.
2. How to decline a blind date arranged by elders
It is not easy to decline a blind date arranged by elders, because we have to respect the wishes of our elders and do not want to hurt their feelings. The following are some ways to politely decline a blind date:
We can express our doubts and concerns about a blind date tactfully. For example: "Thank you for your concern and arrangements, but I feel that it is not the time to get married yet. I want to focus on my career development first." This way, you can express your position without hurting the feelings of your elders.
We can put forward our own concepts and standards for marriage and love. For example: "I think marriage should be based on shared interests and values, not just external conditions. I hope to find someone who truly understands and supports me." By being clear about our expectations, we can let our elders know what we expect from them. Have a clear understanding of marriage.
We can look for other ways to find the right partner. For example, participate in social activities, join interest groups, or use dating and dating platforms. In this way, you can not only meet the expectations of your elders, but also be able to choose your partner more independently.
3. Conclusion
Blind dates arranged by elders are sometimes reliable, but there are also some problems. We can protect our rights and happiness by declining a blind date. At the same time, we must also respect the wishes of our elders and find other ways to find a suitable partner.
