When girls feel very depressed, how do you comfort them? Do you accompany them quietly, or do you feel at a loss? Today I will share some countermeasures that I think are more reliable and practical. Get up and take a look.
First of all, we need to know that when girls are depressed, the other party comes to us to talk. In fact, they do not really come to talk, but I hope you can comfort her, but many times your comfort method is wrong. Not only can you not comfort the other person, it may even have the opposite effect. So in this case, how can you comfort the other party with high emotional intelligence?
Remember three points:
First, listen in a structured way and give the other party the actions they expect.
For example, if a girl is scolded by her boss and feels very depressed, she comes to you to talk to her. At this time, you need to build a listening map in your brain, that is, facts, emotions, and the actions expected by the other party.
Fact: The girl was scolded by her boss because she made a mistake at work.
Emotion: The girl now says that I am wronged and feels very sad (sad, happy)
Action expected by the other party: What does the girl want you to do, such as listening to her tell the whole thing? over.
According to these three parts, divide them in your brain, then listen carefully, then acknowledge the facts of the other party, comfort the other party's emotions, and finally act according to the other party's expectations, practice for a long time, You will become a master communicator.
Second, no evaluation.
Don’t make any comments about a girl’s personal affairs and matters related to personal grievances. This will not help the other party solve the problem, but will only increase the other party’s burden. For example, if someone quarrels with her significant other, you will follow her. Scold the other person and once they make up, you're in trouble. For another example, when the other person evaluates another person, just listen to her and don't make any evaluation.
Third, give hope rather than specific suggestions.
The essence of the other party coming to you is to vent her emotions. She will solve the problem by herself. What you have to do is to let her finish her words and describe her vision. In layman’s terms, it is like painting a pie, because a good vision can Give people hope.
For example, if the other party encounters an emotional entanglement and you can't make up your mind, it would be wrong to give specific suggestions to ask the other party to give up or continue pursuing, because you cannot understand what the two people have experienced and judge the damage correctly. Friends, wrong judgment can also hurt your friends. All you have to do is tell her the pros and cons of the matter, and let her make the rest.
The above three points are applicable to all major scenarios, so remember them well. Don’t wait until you need to use them and find them again. If you really can’t remember them, just save them so that you can use them directly next time. .
