Question: I am thirty this year. Due to pressure from my family, during the Chinese New Year, I went on a blind date with a girl who was two years older than me and in two different provinces through the introduction of relatives. Because my family really urged me to hurry up and implement it, I went to the city where she lives a month ago. Our previous contacts had always been at the stage of chatting on WeChat. I came to an unfamiliar city based on the fate that the first sight was okay, and I wanted to I want to have more opportunities, and I also want to express my attitude.
But now that a month has passed, I feel like I really can’t continue. I basically make dinner dates based on her mood. I haven’t made a date to see a movie or go shopping once in a month. She never cares about my work. Several He took the initiative to send me messages less than three times in the past month, and he really didn’t get any positive response.
We are all adults now, and I don’t want to waste my energy on something that has no hope at all. My family always thinks it’s my fault, and I’m not proactive enough or shameless enough. I used to I have pursued pursuits in a more urgent way, but the result was anger. Now I have no idea what these girls are thinking. I don’t ask for much. A little positive response is enough. What about a blind date? Will the female indifference end with a showdown? I feel like there’s no point in continuing. Do you think I’m doing the right thing?
Should the girl on a blind date want a showdown?
Answer: As a girl, I can tell you clearly, just give up, and there is no need to worry about whether to show off or not.
Let me tell you, if a girl sees you right, she will fall in love at first sight, and you can’t even date her in this situation (or you should go to her city and treat ordinary girls You will be very touched), and just chatting can’t make you fall in love over time, so this analysis is hopeless.
If a girl on a blind date has no feelings for you from the beginning, she will still have no feelings for you no matter how long it takes. If the other party is not proactive enough, it can only be said to be reluctance. In the end, she will still choose to give up, because Not willing to give in (the fact that she is still single at the age of 32 speaks volumes, she is a master who is unwilling to compromise).
I am like this. Sometimes I meet someone who I think is suitable in all aspects, but I don’t feel anything. I feel that the other person is quite sincere, so I want to give it a try. Maybe as time goes by, I will develop feelings for it. However, it turns out that if you don't feel anything, you really can't feel anything. Now I don't want to force myself, nor do I want to waste each other's time and delay others. Basically, when we met, I felt that I didn't feel anything, so I rejected it directly. After all, it is my own problem, and they are right.
Therefore, if you, a woman, really don’t have feelings for you, don’t insist on it. There will be no result. Feelings are really Mutual.
