I found that many boys are not very good at dating, so most of them will have several failed love experiences. This is also a regret for boys. So is there any way for us to avoid this regret? In my opinion , you can only learn the skills and methods of falling in love in advance, and there is nothing else. So today I will share some skills and methods of falling in love. If you also want to fall in love, come and take a look!
1. Talk less about the criteria for choosing a mate and think more about your own virtues and abilities
A normal long-term relationship It must be a match of equal strength.
It is so important to be a good match. If the gap between you is too big, then this gap will be filled with other things, such as your self-esteem and right to speak, especially marriage.
Don’t just pick the right one, you have to look at what kind of pot you have and what kind of lid it can match. If you are not satisfied with the current lid, then you can upgrade yourself to a multi-functional pot with a gold rim and a gold lid.
2. It only makes sense for someone to give it to you if you can afford it yourself.
You can’t afford it at all and don’t even dare to think about it. When someone buys something for you, the nature of the gift changes. To put it bluntly, it is no different from prostitution. This gift is actually bombarding your heart, telling you: This is your reward for obeying me.
3. Don’t believe those “anti-human” love words
“When couples get married, they should not put their hands on the Bible and say that whether they are poor or rich, health and disease will accompany them until death. I should put my hands on the two books "Evolutionary Psychology" and "The Selfish Gene" and swear: I will go against my nature and my instincts and love you forever."
Did you see it? This is human nature and no one can escape it. Don't think that just because she loves you, she has to do whatever she wants. You should first understand what human nature is and what the laws of society are. On this basis, then talk about love.
4. Broken window effect - many things only happen 0 times or countless times.
If a bad situation occurs, if you do not punish and stop it the first time, then this bad situation will continue to happen countless times, such as cheating and domestic violence.
5. Beibo's law - lick the dog until there is nothing left in the end
For example, you like a girl, and the first time you hold hands and hug her, she does not hug you. Determine the relationship. Then, you feel that you have not done enough, and the second and third times go a step further. You feel that you have done what a couple should do, and it is time to confirm the relationship.
But in fact, you have fallen into the "dog-licking cycle". People only have a good opinion of you, but you show an attitude of 80%To respond, the mental gap formed a "dog-licking relationship."
What’s more, if you can enjoy the benefits of being your girlfriend without confirming the relationship, why should she take on unnecessary responsibilities in her opinion?
So if you want to If you want to fall in love well, you must first keep these in mind! Do you remember clearly?
