Men and women have different ways of thinking. Faced with the same problem, men and women always have different ways of dealing with it. Therefore, when many boys communicate with their girlfriends, they always feel that it is difficult for them to communicate with them. So how can couples communicate effectively?
For a woman, if she knows the purpose of the conversation, the conversation will be much easier, and her willingness to participate in the conversation will be much stronger.
If a man wants to talk to a woman, just say:
“I want to talk to you.”
“I feel like we haven’t talked together in a while. Our relationship is over.”
A woman will be very nervous when she hears such words, and she will have many doubts:
What is the purpose of this conversation?
Did she do something wrong again? Are you married? Or do you want to break up again?
When faced with an uncertain matter, men will be a little irritable and uneasy, and even Use excuses to deliberately delay the opportunity to communicate with you.
Not only are men afraid of guessing women, but women are also afraid of guessing what men are thinking.
So, when you have something to communicate with her, you can say this to her:
"Can we have a chat tonight? I have been busy recently, and I want to talk to her. "Tell me about our trip together."
Such words not only indicate the specific time, but also clarify the specific matter of the conversation.
Women will not feel a huge psychological burden after listening to it.
There are differences in the thinking of men and women. Men’s thinking is focused and “goal-oriented”. Women's thinking is broad and "process-oriented".
Women are used to talking to themselves and asking and answering questions, because women pay attention to the process of speaking. Men, on the other hand, are clearly task-oriented. The purpose of their speech is to conclude, so they can be concise and concise and never say more than one sentence.
In fact, men have emotions and feelings just like women, but subconsciously, they are just unwilling to express them with facial expressions and language own emotions.
Therefore, men should give women more time to react and take the initiative to express their feelings to the people they love.
Sometimes, two people cannot communicate because we mistakenly believe that the other person feels and thinks the same as ourselves, so we feel hurt when we don’t get the expected response.
So, if you really love someone and want to spend a lifetime with that person, don’t always complain that the other person doesn’t understand you and let yourself fall into the abyss of negative energy.
Learn to communicate, express, and adapt.
The greatest happiness when two people are together is that no matter what happens, they are willing to change for each other.
