Falling in love may only be a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families. Therefore, there is an essential difference between falling in love and getting married. Before getting married, you must consider practical issues and make certain things clear.
1. What issues need to be considered before getting married
1. Economic conditions of both parties
Although as a man, he should be responsible for the basic life of a family, but if the economic gap between a woman and you is too large, it means that you are not suitable for each other.
2. The importance of being well-matched
Being well-matched means that two people have similar families, have similar educational backgrounds, and have the same values.
3. Can couples grow together?
Couples who move from love to marriage are attracted to each other and can complement each other, so their love can last for a long time. Before getting married, you must consider whether the other person can grow and improve together with you.
2. Things that must be explained clearly before marriage
1. Requirements for bride price
Many unmarried couples eventually broke up because they failed to reach an agreement on the bride price. So if you decide to get married, this issue should be discussed carefully. It is best for the woman not to make demands that exceed the other person's capabilities.
As lovers and couples who are about to enter the marriage hall, they must negotiate well between the two families. Try your best to meet the needs of the other party's family. If you have any difficulties, raise them directly. Don't agree at first and regret it later.
2. Property issues
Including, how to deal with the property in the event of divorce.
If you think this is too cumbersome and emotionally damaging. Then the two of them must discuss it and have a clear concept.
Don’t end up feeling that the rich party has been cheated of money and feelings by the poor party, and will regret it.
3. Division of family labor
Marriage is not a relationship. It's much more complicated than falling in love. Marriage means you will start a family.
Family needs, both parties share the responsibility. Who makes more money, who does more housework, who takes care of the children, and how to support the elderly.
If you can discuss these things before getting married, you can effectively avoid conflicts after marriage.
After getting married, many people feel that the other person has become lazy and impatient. In fact, if you have stipulated your respective responsibilities before marriage, you can just implement them according to the regulations after marriage.
Of course, as the family grows, two people must also grow up, and the rules can be adjusted.
The best situation is that the couple is as loving as ever, with no conflicts, no quarrels, and no possibility of separation.
But there are too many divorces in real life, and many people are entangled in property or emotional issues. There are also many people who cannot accept such a real life after marriage because they did not negotiate well before marriage and did not consider the two families well, and ended up breaking up.
