I don’t know if you have noticed this problem. Sometimes you really want to have a good relationship, but you can’t communicate well. In desperation, you can only choose to separate. In the end, it is because the two people are not suitable. , in fact, have you really thought about what causes your communication difficulties? Today, the editor will bring you the reasons for communication difficulties, let's take a look.
"Difficulties in communication" usually have three types of reasons:
1. Logic confusion
< p> Many partners may have experienced "communication difficulties" with others. When describing incident A, the other party went off-topic and went to BCD. This usually comes from the off-topic party's weak "logical thinking" ability and more "divergent" thinking. Humanoids are often "emotional," "fantasy," and "difficult to focus," and may also "avoid problems," looking left and right in their situations.2. Control
People with a strong desire to control usually have difficulty communicating. You will find that the other party completely "doesn't care" and "cannot understand" the content of your communication and the "purpose" of the reply. The main reason is to "suppress" the other side.
For example, when sorting out a problem with the other party, the controlling party will start to say that he is very capable (rather than the problem itself), interrupt you or stop talking, or start to accuse you of some unwarranted "mistakes", or even do nothing at all. Groundless "objection" to everything you say makes it difficult for communication to progress and to achieve understanding. The controlling party cannot accept an "equal" communication method.
3. Alexithymia
About 15% of the world’s human population is “congenital” or “ People with "acquired" brains have not developed "empathy ability", that is, "personality disorders". They are unable to perceive their own "emotions", nor can they identify the "emotions" of others, nor can they accurately describe their own emotions and truth in words. Emotion (alexithymia) is "emotional blindness" caused by "brain loss".
This group of people has weak language skills and lacks the ability to express emotions. They are unable to achieve effective communication and have difficulty "cooperating with others", and are dangerous.
In short, people who have difficulty communicating have difficulty reaching understanding, and they do not have the willingness and ability to "cooperate with others." Therefore, if you want to get along for a long time, you must give priority to whether both parties can communicate smoothly. This is the most basic screening. .
