It has always been discouraged to confess your love when chasing a girl. Although a successful confession can upgrade the relationship to a couple, if it fails, it is likely that the two parties will be embarrassed and cannot even become friends. So how should you deal with the awkward relationship after the confession fails, so as not to end up with no friends?
1. Natural
You know, if a girl really rejects you outright, then It means she really has no feelings for you. You just know an objective answer. You don't need to worry about whether the girl will gradually alienate you. She is not emotionally attracted to you, so how can she talk about alienation? If you can really feel the change in her attitude before and after, then please don’t take it too seriously, because the girl just wants to tell you with actions, don’t be towards her anymore. If she gets better, you will meet someone more suitable for you. So at this time, boys should behave more naturally and pay more attention to girls' feelings during chats and exchanges.
2. Condense the sense of need and temporarily disconnect.
Girls are actually very reluctant to directly say the words of rejection directly. If you really do this, the girl will think that she has hurt you, and she will feel some guilt towards you. Because of this, after your confession is rejected, it's not just you who feels embarrassed to face the girl. Girls also don’t know what kind of attitude to communicate with you. If it remains the same as before, the girl will worry that you still have illusions about her, which will cause more harm to you. In the end, both parties ended up in an embarrassing situation where they couldn't even be friends.
3. Think calmly and find out the reason
Perhaps what we boys can do after being rejected is The most important thing is to be calm. Think calmly about the difference between yourself and the girl in your mind. Even if we are destined to miss each other, what she brings to you is a clearer understanding of yourself.
You know, a girl must have her own reasons for rejecting you. Never feel resentful towards girls. Indeed, the world is becoming more and more complex, there are more and more temptations in society, and what girls want and know is no longer as simple and honest as before. As boys, all we can do is try our best to improve ourselves. Use the improvement of your abilities to win the favor of girls.
4. Grasp the rhythm and use defense as offense
People are like this and do not cherish things that are easily obtained. If you act too proactively and enthusiastically towards a girl, this may cause the girl to feel resentful.
After the confession fails, you need to maintain a little reserve and learn to be cold. Don't chat with her again for the time being. You can deal with her coldly for a short time.
If you don’t hate the girl, maintain appropriate contact with her and maintain friendship with her.
However, don’t rush yetSend her text messages, call her, chat on WeChat, etc., or don't communicate with her for the time being.
As long as she doesn’t talk to you, don’t talk to her.
Keep the pace slightly further than before and maintain the initiative. Even if she takes the initiative to talk to you, in every conversation, you must take the initiative to find a reason to leave, tell her that you are busy, you have something to do, and you will discuss it later.
Let her know that you have a lot to do and not much time to spend with her, and the last words of the conversation should end with her.
5. Appear in places where she can see you
Use social tools such as WeChat Appear in Moments, QQ space and other places where she can see it, send your life status, emotional status, work status, and the most important thing is to let her know: you are happy without her around.
You can also send some scenes of meeting, communicating and communicating with other girls, as well as some more intimate messages such as "Your appearance makes me happy", "Your childhood appearance is the cutest of".
All of this is to remind her that there are other girls who care about you and want to be with you.
Your purpose is to let the girl know that your mood also fluctuates, making her feel disappointed.
Let her feel your feelings from enthusiasm to cooling down.
When she knows that you are with other girls, it is at this time that girls feel a strong sense of loss, because women are naturally sensitive and value subtle changes, and the relationship between men and women is like this, even if you If you don't have a boyfriend yet, she will respond strongly and will definitely change her attitude towards you.
But the premise is that you have to make sure that girls like you and are willing to listen to you, otherwise they will treat you as a clown.
After attracting the attention of girls, all you have to do is do a lot of work, improve your charm, and constantly improve yourself. Because the initial work is just the beginning. To really impress a girl, that is yourself. If you do not have the conditions to attract a girl, even if your appearance impresses her, it will not last long.
Inner excellence and complete personal qualities will not only win you points for attracting girls, but once girls dedicate themselves to you, they will love you and become your closest and most loyal lover.
